How to Spot Mr. Astagfirullah

Ladies, how do you spot a guy that could be a rotten apple for you and your future.  We all know that you should do Isthakara Salah before committing to someone, because you want Allah (SWT)'s guidance in choosing your spouse.  However, you don't want to waste your time getting to know someone when he is a bad apple from the beginning.

Red Flags to Watch Out For in a Guy: 
  1. Doesn't pray, especially on a regular basis other than Friday Jummah salah.
  2. Doesn't eat halal food.
  3. Doesn't have halal income.  An example would be he has a huge savings account with accumulating interest intentionally to profit from. 
  4. Has a dog in the house (having a dog outside is not the same as having a dog in the house).
  5. He is rude to his elders, especially his parents.
Facts to Consider so you May Not Miss Out on a Good Guy:
  1. Has a bad past, such as having past relationships.  You want to avoid looking into who he was, and focus on who he is. Umar bin al Khattab said, “Sometimes the people with the worst past, create the best future”.
  2. Don't judge based on what he's wearing.  If you didn't talk to him and he is dressed as if he's Mr. GQ then don't walk away until you spoken to him and got to know him.  You would be surprised the hidden imaan in brothers who dress in secular manner.
  3. Don't avoid him if he's divorced.  Western society always labels the guy is at fault, but Western society also gives a lot of power to the ladies to abuse the law and take everything.
I hope this helps, and always depend on Allah (SWT) for everything.  Make dua and pour your heart out to our Lord to grant us the best. If I said anything wrong then it came from my own faults, please forgive me, and all the good I said came from Allah (SWT). Ameen.

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