Showing posts with label Girls. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Girls. Show all posts

How to Screen The Girls for Marriage

Let me tell you fellas, the Muslim girls are screening you all the time and you should be screening them, no pun intended ladies. There are different criteria for different people but the basic should be obvious and I'm going to point them out.

The reason you should be screening girls is because the person you end up falling for will be your partner for life, and there's no going back.

Does she look good?
Let's face it, in this day and age where superficial characteristics are prioritized, one has to look descent enough to attract the opposite sex. I'll admit, some Muslim guys rely so much in finding a faithful girl that they don't clean them selves up. They don't work out, and unless their are reading their prayers, they think with their penises. But fellas, I'll admit, us guys want a pretty face to wake up to. So I don't blame you if you're looking for a good-looking girl to marry, but you gotta fix yourself up too.

Does she value education?
Traditional Arab and Pakistani guys don't prioritize their wives to have a good education, which will setup for a disaster. An educated woman will always boost the family in some shape or form. Let me tell you why. The wife has the biggest influence in the family because she is a spouse, she becomes the mother, and the daughter-in-law, and sister-in-law. The wife should always be given the highest priority for education if you want a secured future for your kids and for yourself. An educated wife will make the best decision for the family. I've noticed Bangladeshi, Indonesian, Turkish, Malaysian, and Morroccon Muslims value women education. In addition, you can have the most amazing conversation with an educated girl without looking below her neck or fantisizing her naked (that's after marriage, keep it halal!).

How does she treat animals or waiters?
A god way to test a person's character is to put them in scenarios with others who are vulnerable. Some Muslim girls may not like anything other than Cats, and others may not like animals at all. However, if you go to a restarant, keep on eye on them when an underpaid, overworked waiter serves her. If she shows respect and recognition to the waiter then that's a positive sign. If she doesn't show any recognition to the waiter, then it's okay. However, if she shows a pint of disrespect then dump her without giving her any second chances. The reason I say this, if you correct her, then you will always have to correct her. Treating others with respect comes from an individual's personality. Keep in mind that her parents and your parents will grow old and they will become vulnerable.

Can she think independently?
This question probably scares a lot of Arab/Pakistani guys with a backward mentality. To these guys, an independent women probably means not getting rotis whenever they want or not getting naked and having sex whenever the guys want. Unfortunately for those men, a person, even a woman, has the right to think. And when a woman thinks independently, then she can make decisions for herself and for her family in times of hardships when the husband is not around. Unfortunately a lot of Muslim girls don't get the opportunity to learn before marriage because their parents refrain them from learning out of fear.

I hope this post help and remember, and I hope the ladies don't feel insulted. I'm just speaking based on my opinion.





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How to Spot Mr. Astagfirullah

Ladies, how do you spot a guy that could be a rotten apple for you and your future.  We all know that you should do Isthakara Salah before committing to someone, because you want Allah (SWT)'s guidance in choosing your spouse.  However, you don't want to waste your time getting to know someone when he is a bad apple from the beginning.

Red Flags to Watch Out For in a Guy: 
  1. Doesn't pray, especially on a regular basis other than Friday Jummah salah.
  2. Doesn't eat halal food.
  3. Doesn't have halal income.  An example would be he has a huge savings account with accumulating interest intentionally to profit from. 
  4. Has a dog in the house (having a dog outside is not the same as having a dog in the house).
  5. He is rude to his elders, especially his parents.
Facts to Consider so you May Not Miss Out on a Good Guy:
  1. Has a bad past, such as having past relationships.  You want to avoid looking into who he was, and focus on who he is. Umar bin al Khattab said, “Sometimes the people with the worst past, create the best future”.
  2. Don't judge based on what he's wearing.  If you didn't talk to him and he is dressed as if he's Mr. GQ then don't walk away until you spoken to him and got to know him.  You would be surprised the hidden imaan in brothers who dress in secular manner.
  3. Don't avoid him if he's divorced.  Western society always labels the guy is at fault, but Western society also gives a lot of power to the ladies to abuse the law and take everything.
I hope this helps, and always depend on Allah (SWT) for everything.  Make dua and pour your heart out to our Lord to grant us the best. If I said anything wrong then it came from my own faults, please forgive me, and all the good I said came from Allah (SWT). Ameen.






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