Let me tell you fellas, the Muslim girls are screening you all the time and you should be screening them, no pun intended ladies. There are different criteria for different people but the basic should be obvious and I'm going to point them out.

The reason you should be screening girls is because the person you end up falling for will be your partner for life, and there's no going back.

Does she look good?

Let's face it, in this day and age where superficial characteristics are prioritized, one has to look descent enough to attract the opposite sex. I'll admit, some Muslim guys rely so much in finding a faithful girl that they don't clean them selves up. They don't work out, and unless their are reading their prayers, they think with their penises. But fellas, I'll admit, us guys want a pretty face to wake up to. So I don't blame you if you're looking for a good-looking girl to marry, but you gotta fix yourself up too.

Does she value education?

Traditional Arab and Pakistani guys don't prioritize their wives to have a good education, which will setup for a disaster. An educated woman will always boost the family in some shape or form. Let me tell you why. The wife has the biggest influence in the family because she is a spouse, she becomes the mother, and the daughter-in-law, and sister-in-law. The wife should always be given the highest priority for education if you want a secured future for your kids and for yourself. An educated wife will make the best decision for the family. I've noticed Bangladeshi, Indonesian, Turkish, Malaysian, and Morroccon Muslims value women education. In addition, you can have the most amazing conversation with an educated girl without looking below her neck or fantisizing her naked (that's after marriage, keep it halal!).

How does she treat animals or waiters?

A god way to test a person's character is to put them in scenarios with others who are vulnerable. Some Muslim girls may not like anything other than Cats, and others may not like animals at all. However, if you go to a restarant, keep on eye on them when an underpaid, overworked waiter serves her. If she shows respect and recognition to the waiter then that's a positive sign. If she doesn't show any recognition to the waiter, then it's okay. However, if she shows a pint of disrespect then dump her without giving her any second chances. The reason I say this, if you correct her, then you will always have to correct her. Treating others with respect comes from an individual's personality. Keep in mind that her parents and your parents will grow old and they will become vulnerable.

Can she think independently?

This question probably scares a lot of Arab/Pakistani guys with a backward mentality. To these guys, an independent women probably means not getting rotis whenever they want or not getting naked and having sex whenever the guys want. Unfortunately for those men, a person, even a woman, has the right to think. And when a woman thinks independently, then she can make decisions for herself and for her family in times of hardships when the husband is not around. Unfortunately a lot of Muslim girls don't get the opportunity to learn before marriage because their parents refrain them from learning out of fear.

I hope this post help and remember, and I hope the ladies don't feel insulted. I'm just speaking based on my opinion.

What I noticed about different married couples is that females are not always the logical ones in the relationship. They are understanding for the most part, but not all the time. Guys, on the other hand, can be immature, impulsive, yet logical. So I guess there is a balance, as in one partner fills in for the deficiency of the other.

I don't always say this, but guys, you should be consistent in treating your partner with respect even when she is not respectful to you. Females are complicated and they are not logical all the time, hence, they may say things that will hurt you and disrespect you. However, that's no excuse for you to retaliate or hurt them. Allah loves those who are patient. So be patient with your partner and give them the benefit of doubt. Maybe your partner is going through something and they're unable to express it to you. If you ask what's wrong, and they'll tell you "I'm fine", which basically means she's not fine, but sit next to her and offer your shoulder for her to lean on.

Ladies, you are not off the hook yet. How is it that girls cannot remember to turn off and unplug their hair straightener, but can remember what their partner said 5 years ago at 11:50 PM? It's funny but true.

At the end of the day, all I'm saying is, guys are logical and for that reason, they have their heads together (for the most part), and in doing so, they should be patient with their female partners.

Remember Allah (SWT) is watching and will reward you for your patience.

You know ladies, there's always talk about what women want but you know it takes two to tango. Did you ever consider what men want? Nowadays, it's always about the demand of the women and how to please her. Muslim sisters nowadays can reject or accept proposals because at the end of the day it's the decision of the sister because she has to give up the most.  For marriage, sisters have to give up their family who raised her, her house she grew up in, and most of the time her last name which identifies her family background.  With all the sacrifices the women make, you still should look into what men want. Sisters who cannot get married or still haven't found anyone should really look into what men want and should compromise WITHOUT compromising your own values.

Men Are Simple
Whether you like it or not, men are simple creature. There is such thing as "guys are complicated".  Guys are rational, and they are straightforward, and they will not play games.  Sisters, remember all guys are not the same but they all want the same thing.  After marriage, you give them these things, and he will treat you like a queen inshaAllah.  Guys want the following:

• Guys love food; to reach a man's heart, go through his stomach, which is a universal fact for all men.
• Nurturing; as in taking care of him, such as giving him a massage after a hard days work as a small example.
• Love and love making.
• Guys want loyalty; that means, don't go check out or flirting with other men, even if it seems harmless to you, it's very harmful to your marriage and your relationship with your husband.  (And this goes the same for the guys in relation to their wives.)

Men Want a Wife Not Another Income
Men want a wife who can take care of them. Men don't want to deal with career oriented women. It's okay to have a career as a woman but keep in mind, men want a wife and not another income. If you think your husband will compromise himself for your career then I can assure you that you will have a difficult time finding your special someone. If you want a career, then try to make your career around your family and not the other way around.  It's in a man's nature to find someone who will burn the fire of love at home.

Men Want a Partner Not a Boss
The wives in the families keep the family together so they have authority in the family. However, with that authority don't think that you can put your husband on a leash. Look at the Western society and how family life is breaking down, and it starts with the mutual respect between the spouses. The wife is the glue to the entire family.  Allah (SWT) created women perfectly to attract her male partner.  A women's voice, her body's shape, her beautiful face, her facial glow, her soft skin, and her love is what makes her feminine.  A woman's love is unmatched; no money in the world can match up to a woman's love and for that reason ladies, you should choose well and give your love to a deserving man.  With that said, the man will give you back that love and more.

If anything I said is wrong, it came from my faults, and I ask you to forgive me, and if I said anything good then it came from Allah (SWT). Ameen.

Ladies, how do you spot a guy that could be a rotten apple for you and your future.  We all know that you should do Isthakara Salah before committing to someone, because you want Allah (SWT)'s guidance in choosing your spouse.  However, you don't want to waste your time getting to know someone when he is a bad apple from the beginning.

Red Flags to Watch Out For in a Guy: 

1. Doesn't pray, especially on a regular basis other than Friday Jummah salah.
2. Doesn't eat halal food.
3. Doesn't have halal income.  An example would be he has a huge savings account with accumulating interest intentionally to profit from. 
4. Has a dog in the house (having a dog outside is not the same as having a dog in the house).
5. He is rude to his elders, especially his parents.

Facts to Consider so you May Not Miss Out on a Good Guy:

1. Has a bad past, such as having past relationships.  You want to avoid looking into who he was, and focus on who he is. Umar bin al Khattab said, “Sometimes the people with the worst past, create the best future”.
2. Don't judge based on what he's wearing.  If you didn't talk to him and he is dressed as if he's Mr. GQ then don't walk away until you spoken to him and got to know him.  You would be surprised the hidden imaan in brothers who dress in secular manner.
3. Don't avoid him if he's divorced.  Western society always labels the guy is at fault, but Western society also gives a lot of power to the ladies to abuse the law and take everything.

I hope this helps, and always depend on Allah (SWT) for everything.  Make dua and pour your heart out to our Lord to grant us the best. If I said anything wrong then it came from my own faults, please forgive me, and all the good I said came from Allah (SWT). Ameen.

The following video explains what is allowed and what is not allowed in Islam in terms of sexual intimacy. It's a funny lecture, and I hope you enjoy it.